Excerpts from my Book
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‘Negative People’ often Insist they are ‘Positive People’.
One day, I came across a study revealing that even in the light of evidence showing how negative their thoughts and feelings are, most people insist they are a positive person, even among those whose thoughts and feelings were judged to be the most negative.
I had been intrigued by the fact that while words deemed to be positive, far outnumber words deemed as negative in the dictionary, the ratio is reversed when it comes to words that describe our feelings. Studies of 37 languages consistently turned up seven words which have similar meanings in each language: joy, fear, anger, sadness, shame and guilt. Robert Schrauf, professor of Linguistics, who conducted the study, said “Seven words, and only one positive, isn’t that awesome?” Another study revealed that when it comes to words which describe our feelings, the normal bias towards positive words is reversed to 62 [negative]: 38 [positive]. Researchers believe the reversed ratio is because people have a strong need to label their negative emotions, as a way of helping them describe the feelings they want to move away from.
The average person has between 60-80,000 -subconscious- thoughts per day. Most are the same as the thoughts they had the day before.
– The National Science Foundation
When it comes to people who appear very negative insisting they are positive, I believe that when they are using the conscious part of their mind, most people genuinely feel they are positive; it’s only when their subconscious programming takes over, that their thoughts and feelings become negative.
There is a similar disconnect in energy psychology circles called the ‘Apex effect’. After using energy psychology techniques to release entrenched negative feelings they may have had for years, some people will insist that something other than the energy psychology technique they used, caused the transformation in how they feel. This is thought to be when someone’s belief system struggles to accept that something so simple can release months, and in some cases years, of emotional distress.
We are told that most of us only use conscious awareness about 5-10% of the time. The rest of the time, we are ‘in the programme’ doing things automatically, according to how our subconscious mind has been programmed. I believe that underneath their disempowering, limiting, self-sabotaging subconscious programmes, most people want to be positive, which would explain why even the most negative people insist they are ‘a positive person’.
Most of us can remember watching films about war or some other human disaster, where the hero who ‘saves the day’ turns out to be the ‘ne’er do well’ everyone previously thought was a ‘bad lot’. In the past, this person was probably acting-out their predominantly negative subconscious programming, then disaster strikes, and his conscious mind takes over. As a result, he is no longer ‘being programmed’ by his habitual, disempowering thoughts and feelings. His innate goodness comes to the fore, and his good deeds redeem him in the eyes of the world. Cue the credits! Life is often said to imitate art, but it’s often the other way around.
In his book ‘The Honeymoon Effect’, stem-cell researcher and author of ‘The Biology of Belief’, Bruce Lipton, explains the phenomenon of how our behaviour and personality change, when we are no longer ‘in the programme’… “If we think back to a time we were head over heels in love, it was, for most people, a time of pure bliss, robust health, and abundant energy. Life was so beautiful you couldn’t wait to bound out of bed in the morning to experience more Heaven on Earth”. Lipton explains that this is because we are seeing everything through the filters of our ‘in love’ feelings. As a result, we are fully conscious and keen to show the best version of ourselves, so we pay attention to how we eat, how we dress, how we speak, and we give our partner our rapt attention. He says that when we are fully conscious, we can easily shift our mindset to be the best version of ourselves, because we are no longer being controlled by our subconscious programming.
However, some time down the line, the honeymoon effect usually wears off, and our habitual subconscious programming takes over. As a result, we stop being mindful about how we eat, dress, speak, etc Plus, our disempowering programmes often make the things we felt were ‘cute’ about our partner -when we were operating from our conscious mind- begin to get on our nerves. The honeymoon often turns into daily bickering, and if you are married by then, maybe divorce, or just learning to ‘put up with it’. But Lipton says we can all maintain the ‘Honeymoon effect’ if we rewrite our subconscious programmes, which is exactly what Hypno-Sensing allows you to do.
However, if we allow our disempowering subconscious programmes to take over, our subconscious ‘alter ego’ habitually sabotages our conscious desire to be the best version of ourselves …and often succeeds in stealing the joy from our lives in the process.
New studies reveal a subconscious mind that is far more active, purposeful and independent than previously known.
― Research from Yale University, reported in the New York Times